ANGELA + MATT
HARRIET ISLAND PAVILION
ST PAUL, MN
These two are pure gold. You are going to fall in love with them, I promise! We have known Angela for over 10 years and just this last year have gotten to know Matt. We absolutely agree with Matt’s brother’s speech “Matt and Angela – they just make sense. They always have.” Follow along below to hear about how Matt proposed, a few funny planning mishaps and hear from each of them about their favorite moments of their wedding day. We’re so excited for these two and what’s to come!
We’ll write this from Matt’s point of view, since, well, Angela just got to go along for the ride. One thing you should know about us before this all starts is that we are St. Paul people. We love the city and it was where the wedding was. Also, neither of us are all that great at sitting still. Now you know that, we can start!
First of all, Angela and I went in together to pick out the ring. She knew we were getting close, so I had to find a way to surprise her. I figured, hell, why not propose at 8:00 in the morning and we’ll go from there. So I had some friends invite us to coffee then make up some excuse why it had to be so early in the morning. Her cousin (who was going to be in town and who I had talked to about all of this) had then invited her to brunch. So we had the whole day blocked off. When our friends called to let us know they were running a bit late, I detoured the car up to Dayton’s bluff which overlooks downtown, which is where Angela was living at the time. It was awkward, I was nervous and I think that made her nervous, but I said some nice things, got down on one knee, and asked her to marry me. She said yes and I told her we were putting our phones away and we’d capture the day on one of those instant film cameras.
From Dayton’s Bluff we went down to Union Depot and hopped on the Green Line. We hit up some classic St. Paul places as well as some places that were important to our relationship. We started with breakfast at Keys Cafe. We then actually did meet up with our friends for coffee at Workhorse Coffee. From there we went to feed the giraffes at Como Zoo. We had lunch at a little place that lets you build your own spring rolls off of University Ave. From there we went to Surely (I know, that’s Minneapolis, but it’s on the Green Line and important in our history), had a beer, and hopped back on the rail and headed downtown – lowertown to be specific. We had coffee at Black Dog (we value hydration, as you can tell) and walked up to grab a beer at Tin Whiskers, the brewery closest to Angela’s condo.
When we got to Tin Whiskers, we had a huge group of our friends and family waiting there for us to surprise Angela. She cried for the second time and we spent the rest of the time before dinner celebrating with them. We took our parents from Tin Whiskers to Big River Pizza for dinner, and after dinner we made a few phone calls and totally crashed. It was busy, action packed, and it felt like the perfect way for us to spend our engagement day.
When planning your wedding did you have any big surprises?
I think the biggest surprise for both of us was how many more things we immediately needed to have a preference on, and how controversial seemingly mundane pieces of our wedding became. The two that stick out in particular were our plates and our registry.
We were both home owners before we were engaged and we moved in together before and both homes were about the same size. While we were planning the wedding, we were also decluttering our life. It made sense that since we already had duplicates of most things to just invite people to the wedding and not suggest things they could give us in return. The second another soul got wind of that news, we were hearing all about how rude it was to not provide a wish-list. At the same time, we were reading about how it’s rude to mention anywhere on anything related to the wedding that there is a registry. It was a pickle that we thought we could avoid by not having one and it ended up being more of an issue than we could have imagined.
Perhaps even more mundane than that, after researching rental prices for table settings we decided it would be less expensive to simply buy our dishes and silverware. This should be a simple task. We found some great, nine-and-a-half inch clear plates for our buffet. Now, I’m sure Al and Lindsey know this since they were there and measured the plates, but we did not use the plates that we purchased. Both mothers took issue with how small our dinner plates were, despite us having used them successfully for multiple events previous. For most of the planning, the size of the plates dominated our discussions with our mothers. We eventually got to the point where we said we weren’t going to discuss it anymore and said if they wanted a solution, they were welcome to fix whatever issues they had with our plates. Sure enough, we had ten-and-a-half inch plates for the wedding courtesy of Angela’s mom. We were simply informed they would be there, and they were taken care of at the end of the night.
What are your favorite memories of the wedding?
Angela: Far and away my favorite memories of the wedding are the things that were said. From sitting on the floor alone in the hotel room reading the note Matt had written me to hearing his parents repeatedly express their excitement and love for us, it was amazing to hear how people other than myself see our love and intend to support it. It really helped me realize what we were doing. This wasn’t just a big party. This was a celebration of both an ending and a beginning. An end to searching for “my person” – a phrase I used often growing up. Matt’s brother, Joe, said exactly what I’ve felt for a long time “Matt and Angela – they just make sense. They always have.” Hearing others agree that we have each found our person was a perfect way to end the “search period” of life. It was also a celebration of what is hopefully the beginning of a long love story. As my dad spoke during our ceremony, he quoted the ending of my great-grandpa’s memoir, which said “In hindsight, I realize more and more that love was the predominant factor of our lives.” Our wedding day left me so encouraged that we not only had sufficient love for each other to make that the predominant factor of our lives, but we also had an excess of love and support around us to make that true. Looking back, I truly feel like our wedding was the celebration of love that we wanted it to be.
Matt: I think for me the most memorable moment that isn’t Angela (a lot of the day is admittedly a blur – I’m not sure how you would avoid that) was when we were taking a moment to reflect while the song was playing during our ceremony. It was after a prayer, and I think most people were still bowing a bit, but I took that moment to glance out over the amazing group of people who had gathered to spend the day with us to help witness our commitment and celebrate with us. It was an absolutely humbling moment. I can’t think of a time I’ve been in the presence of so much love and joy of so many people. That moment snapped me into the realization of how gigantic of a point this was in both of our lives. It drove home the, until then, vague notion that what we were doing was a real, important, impactful, and sacred and that we would be held accountable and we would be supported in this journey that we are now embarking on. I’m sure I’m still only at the tip of the iceberg when it comes to understanding the gravity of the vows we took, but that moment was, for me, the most awesome moment of the night that wasn’t how beautiful Angela looked or how well she danced!
Ceremony and Reception Venue : Harriet Island Pavillion
Videography : Daniel Flaherty (Bellagala)
Flowers : Handmade by Angela’s mom
Dessert : Cookies and Milk made by Matt’s mom
DJ : Adrian Ramos (Bellagala)
Makeup: Sara Aune Spa Beauty Agency
Hair: Stephanie Felling, friend of Angela
Dresses : The Wedding Shoppe
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